I'm In Like With You

What happens when you fall in love with the idea of being in love? That's what we do in most aspects of our lives anyway. We tend to take on an 'ALL OR NOTHING' mindset. We play the same game, but each person by his / her own rules. We create chaos and destruction. And then we judge each other for having 'issues'. Its all about the thrill of the chase, but what to do when you reached your goal? Do we really want that? Or do we just want to feel something. Maybe that we are not wasting time or that we are not alone. Who knows. I sure as hell don't.























I must admit though that i am very disappointed in the human brain. (It's such a strange thought to think about your brain while your brain thinks for you. Maybe it's just being fully aware of the present. Like they teach you in yoga classes - 'breathing is very important as it is the only time a person is truly in the present. Your last breath was in the past and your next breath will be in the future.')

Anyways, back to the brain... We have so much capacity to improve the use of our brain, but at the same time our brain limits us greatly. We can only focus fully on one thing at a time, unless we create habits, then it becomes like layers in Photoshop, where we can do certain things without putting any thought into it. So basically on a daily basis, the brain needs just as much exercise as the body to stay in shape. Unfortunately, we are also lazy and have a lack of focus on our long term goals.

Complex ideas takes up the most energy. It takes a lot of effort for the brain to imagine new things, as every thought is connected to something we have already experienced. Then when things get hectic and we start to stress, the biggest things are pushed out of our focus and we fall back to habits that are easy to think about and fun to do. Like drinking and socializing amongst other things. As a result, we lose track of the big idea. If only laziness and cellphones didn't exist, we would all be geniuses. Well, not everyone.

So what has all this got to do with the idea of being in love? Well, think about it. Being in love is fun, it's a natural high. It's a big dose of silly happiness, with the only bad effect being lack in concentration. It's also easy (which our brains like). In fact, just as easy as smoking a cigarette, and also just as addictive. More instant gratification. More addictions due to a lack of patience and self-control.

So we either embrace this idea and get as much fun out of life as possible, but at a price, or we have to learn patience. I guess in the end it boils down to priorities. Maybe we can have the best of both worlds. That would mean conquering laziness though. There might even be a better way to balance all of this. Maybe we can be in like with things rather than being in love. That way there are no hard feelings. Maybe. It's worth a try.

Here is a song. It's not an epic backtrack to the story I just told you, but it works for now.